False beliefs and high expectations cause people a lot of suffering. A wrong assessment of the surrounding world and events in their lives can become a cause of disappointment one day. A wrong assessment of life does not provide an opportunity to see real opportunities and true paths to success. Misconceptions lead to wrong goals, and as a result, a person does not get what he/she wanted.
Therefore, you should find out if you have such erroneous beliefs and change them to the correct ones. Therefore, the choice of your path to happiness depends on you. But before you start your way, you must understand where you are going and be sure that this is the goal that makes you happy.
We invite you to look at some of the most common misconceptions that can become an obstacle in your path.
Happiness depends on the environment.
Many people connect their happiness with those around them and hope that one day the people around them will change, and then they will find the long-awaited happiness. But this is a false belief. After all, only you can change your life, and if something does not suit you, you should change it. Nobody forces you to communicate with people who are unpleasant for you, live in a house that annoys you, and go to work you hate. You can justify yourself. But in reality, everything suits you, and you don’t want to change anything.
Such a situation can also happen in relationships with your partner. You expect him/her to make you happy. But he/she has his/her life and worries, gets tired, and sometimes does not understand what you expect from him/her. Do not expect anyone to make you happy, you should be a source of happiness for yourself.
Even if your partner leaves you, this does not mean that you are doomed to be alone. This false belief leads you into an addicted relationship without respect. Therefore, you must learn to understand that you are the person who always cares about you.
Your thoughts about the environment shape this environment. If you see only unworthy people, then perhaps you have a distorted view of reality. Change your attitude to the world, and the world will change.
Comparing yourself to other people.
Social networks distort the real picture of the world. You look at the happy faces in the photo and think that others live richer, more successful than you. You start spending your energy to evaluate your life from the negative side and see where you are not successful. But the truth is that you don’t see the real life of other people. They show you only their best side, and all negative factors remain far from people.
But you continue to set goals that are imposed on you by society. Therefore, you do not experience joy even if you achieve it. To be happy, you must know what is important to you, what is your success, and so on. Don’t try to do something to prove to others that you too can achieve these results. This is your life, and you should use it for your happiness, not to compete with other people.
How people think about you is an important factor in your happiness.
If you depend on the opinions of other people, then it will be difficult for you to find harmony in your life. After all, people can evaluate your actions and achievements in different ways. Such contradictions will confuse your feelings. Dependence on other people’s opinions is the path to anxiety and depression. If you try to be good to everyone, you are betraying yourself. It is impossible to make everyone happy. First of all, you have to take care of yourself. Learn to appreciate yourself. Do not let people force their opinion of you. They judge you based on their inner world, and their opinion has nothing to do with you. People talk about themselves, not you.
You are locked into the rules.
Each of you has your idea of the world and people. But you should not ask people to conform to your ideas about them. Understand that there is no right and wrong. People are all different, and they have the right to do as they see fit. If you do not like their position in life, you can prevent them from entering your life or limit communication with them. But this does not mean that someone is wrong. It means another person has different rules.
If you want to avoid conflict and disappointment, do not impose your opinion on anyone and take the other opinion as fact without judging it.